Nesting

Well the nesting instinct is in full effect now. When I'm home, I can't seem to relax, I want to always be moving and improving our house... the baby's room is nearly done. We ordered a rocking chair and Ted needs to change out the outlets & double check the fan wiring for safety (I installed the fan years ago before I knew the best\cutest electrician ever). Other than that, we'll need the mattress & bedding which might be given as gifts, and the room will be complete. Here are some pics!
We'll be painting the nightstand white (depending on how it looks when we get the chair in there) or we'll sell it... :) When I went up to take pictures this morning, I found Molly on the changing table with Mimi. Mimi was my baby doll when I was little. Ted has been preparing by miming that he is holding\burping\feeding a baby... Mimi was used in his mime recently and she only fell down the stairs once so far....

Baby Bump: 6ish Months (28 weeks)

Baby Bump: 5 Months (23 Weeks)

We'll have a baby when Pigs Fly

I'm so excited about the mobile I just ordered. It was featured on Young House Love and although I didn't win the give-away, I bought one! Our baby will get to look at these intriquitely made felt pigs!

The Efficient Frontier

In Modern Portfolio Theory, the "Efficient Frontier" is when a portfolio maximizes the amount of return for a given level of risk. I must give credit for any knowledge I have about economic theories to my dad, who has an insatiable interest in the topic. I believe there is a similar "Efficient Frontier" when it comes to families. Each set of parents has the most efficient breakdown of children, in which they can maximize their children(return) to the amount of cost(risk). For instance, do you ever see a mom driving a suburban with just 1 child in the back? Doesn't it seem wasteful? Such a big car, for only 1 kid?! That family is not operating at the efficient frontier.

Determining Your Efficient Frontier
There are several variables to assess when determining your family's efficient frontier. How many children can you fit in the bedrooms of your house? How big are your vehicles? How many car seats will fit? At some point as you create your family, you may reach capacity in your home or your car. The point of capacity in your home and car, is your family's efficient frontier. At that point, just 1 more child will require you to move or buy a new car.

There are other factors to consider with the efficient frontier as well. Certainly multiple children of the same sex can share more clothing, which decreases costs. I've also heard that boys are not as expensive as girls (however that is more optional spending I believe). When it comes to the spacing of children (age difference), there is an optimum spacing, maybe 2-3 years, in which they can share cribs and car seats. Too close in age and the previous child is still using their crib, too far apart and there are other things to consider, such as time away from work for the mother. If you're like me and you'd like to work only part time (or take a break) when your children are young, the closer in age, the fewer years away from work you have before they reach school age.

Our Efficient Frontier
As I consider these factors for our family, the Shaw family efficient frontier is 2. Our home has 2 large bedrooms, so 2 children could comfortable share the other bedroom upstairs. If they are both girls, I think they could share into their teenage years (I don't think opposite sexed children should share once they reach puberty). And both of our cars could fit 2 children comfortably, even if both are in car seats.

But we want 3 kids! One more than our efficient frontier... what should we do? Of course, we will adjust and plan for our family. When we buy a single family house, eventually, we will look for at least 4 bedrooms, even if we have only had 2 children at that time. We may operate below efficiency initially, but hopefully we will find a house we can call home for the remainder of our child rearing years.

We will also be considering school options when we move, since the public high school in our area is known for having crime and disciplinary issues. We will need to assess whether private school tuition would be more cost effective than buying into a school district with a well-rated school. For families with this consideration, the more children in the family, the more worthwhile a good public school option is, since tuition is paid on a per-child basis.

Conclusion
Can we base our decisions on what is best for our family based on a formula? Of course not. We should, however, recognize these expenses and how we can make our families most efficient. We should consider the resources God has given us, and make the best use of them, which could mean staying in a smaller house longer, while I work part time.

One thing I have been considering lately is that God is not concerned with making us 'happy' but, he does want us to be joyful. When we consider our lives, our decisions, and the long term, we should consider our long term joy, over our short term happiness. This could mean directing our resources to support a cause we believe in, rather than the fancy SUV with warming seats and a DVD player.

So what do you think? What is your efficient frontier?

It's a Girl!

Ted and I were thrilled to find out we're having a girl. So much fun to buy for a girl and decorate for a girl... It might get a bit out of hand. I'm also thinking that if our boy (eventually hopefully) is as adventurous as Ted was as a child, I'm going to need to be broken in first.

Ted got to see the baby for the first time at this appointment and I think it's really starting to sink in. He is now kissing my stomach (and me) "goodbye" in the mornings.

Here are some of her cameos. The nurse said, "There's her face, isn't she cute?" to which I responded, "I don't know, she looks kind of scary, like a skeleton."


and of course the infamous "it's a girl" shot.


These last few weeks we have started to hope more and more that it's a girl, but we didn't want to be disappointed with a boy. Everyone always says before they know the sex of their baby, "Oh, we don't care if it's a boy or a girl, just as long as it's healthy." Ted and I would like to make a modification to that phrase. For us it would be, "Oh, we don't care if it's a boy or a girl, as long as it's not ugly."

Here's what we don't want our baby to look like.

This is a picture of a baby that was born at Shannon's hospital, Mercy (where we are delivering). The mother sent a thank you note to the nurses and included this picture of her little one. The nurses got such a kick out of it that they posted the picture where they admit patients.

After work on Wednesday we planned a happy hour to celebrate our new news of Boy or Girl. We had our friends & coworkers come wearing either a pink or blue shirt, depending on what they thought it would be. We bought everyone's first drink that got it right (and consolation drinks if they got it wrong). It was a great time.

Baby Bump: 4 Months (18 Weeks)

You asked, I've answered. The latest baby bump!

Anniversary Weekend in Atlantic City

Ted and I had a great time in Atlantic City for our anniversary. We didn't win any money -- but we also didn't lose much! When I married Ted, I was disappointed that he didn't like playing board games or even cards. Ted now really enjoys Texas Hold'em.


We stayed at the Trump Taj Mahal. We had an ocean view room and stayed on the 88th floor! We really enjoyed our room, it had a great modern decor and a huge bathroom.


When we got home we had some of our wedding cake. The part that was saved was actually the "Groom's Cake" -- a chocolate cake in the form of a softball. It was actually really good still. We ate it throughout the week, but weren't able to finish it. It was a lot of cake!

Baby Bump: 3 Months

Bump #2 - Little Bump (taken 7/22/09 at 12 weeks, 6 days)

Mango Smoothies

My new favorite thing is the Mango Smoothie at Panera. I just can't get enough of them!


I highly suggest you check them out...

Mango Smoothie

Sweet mango puree blended with ice, topped with whipped cream & a raspberry syrup swirl.

The Big Reveal

With Father's Day only 3 weeks from when we learned of our exciting news, we thought it was only natural to have both sets of parents over and tell them together on Father's Day. Since this will be the first grandchild for both sets of parents (Ted's dad has grandchildren in Arizona he doesn't see much), we knew the excitement would be high.

We started the grill and hung out outside. The excitement was killing me! I couldn't wait till they opened their presents and learned they would be grandpas in 2010.

Even when they opened their gifts, my dad still thought it couldn't be. He had a look like, "very funny.. ha ha" as if we were just teasing them. (It has been the case that we tease them we won't give them grandkids.) I said, "We're having a baby in January!" and I'll never forget the look of shock on Maria's face. Everyone was overjoyed.

The rest of the afternoon was a great celebration with everyone sharing horror stories of pregnancies and birth. Something that seems to be the favorite topic of conversation I've noticed around newly-pregnant women. Luckily I've felt very good so far.

Baby Bump: 2 Months

Bump #1 - No bump (taken 6/21/09 at 8 weeks, 3 days)

What did you do?!

On May 29, 2009 Ted went to the O's game with some friends and I stayed home. I had just hosted a baby shower at work that day, so the thought of babies was on my mind. Also on my mind was the fact that I was 8 days late -- which isn't rare considering I've had 2 months this past year without a period altogether.

On a whim I decided to use one of the 2 pregnancy tests we had on hand. The test came back with 1 1/2 lines... it wasn't very clearly a 'pregnant' indicator. I was confused... the clearly there line was the line closer to the stick -- which would mean it's the pregnant line. That can't be! I'll have to take the other test. But I couldn't go again just yet, so I sat down and drank a glass of water. I forgot about wanting to take the second test until I got the call from Ted that they were on their way back. I hurriedly took the test. This brand of test showed a clear + sign - indicating pregnant. My mind raced, "Oh no". I just couldn't believe it since I didn't feel any differently. I drove out to Columbia to pick up Ted from his friend's house (since he drank at the game we thought it would be safer for me to pick him up).

When Ted got in the car I still hadn't decided how to tell him. I had an extremely guilty look on my face which caused him to ask, "What did you do? What..did..you..do?" (meaning did I buy something expensive or move furniture or something). I sheepishly handed him the tests and apologized for taking them without him. Ted was equally shocked, but his shocked was combined with alcohol, which increased the effects.

After a 3rd test taken the next day -- and despite him asking for me to take yet another test and make it "Best of 7", we were finally convinced that our family was going to begin a couple years earlier than we had initially planned.